It’s been a while since I wrote a post. Seems the older we get, the more busy life becomes. *sigh* where is my rich husband? Anyway, if you have been struggling with doubt, fear and anxiety, this post is for you.
If there is one feeling everyone with a goal has to deal with often, it is self-doubt. Self-doubt is what many people chew on the moment they wake up in the morning and they think of the goals they have set for themselves. Questions like ‘Can I achieve that?’ ‘will that even work?’ ‘will they really like me?’ ‘Can I truly get the required resources?’ etc. are some of the questions some people deal with the moment they wake up. Anxiety is often not left out of the equation. The anxiety that comes from self-doubt is one that I have personally experienced many times and I just want to use this post as a source of encouragement to someone out there who is struggling with self-doubt.
I used to think a little doubt was a good thing; probably because many people in my childhood told me about how over-confident I was, and needed to tone it down. I started to introduce doubt into my thinking to make room for errors that my perfectionist self was unlikely to make. With time, doubt became a norm, and I became a big ball of anxiety. I even had withdrawal symptoms if I didn’t doubt myself for a considerable amount of time, and those symptoms led me to find reasons to doubt myself until one day, I looked back and realized how much I had missed out on because I paid more attention to the doubtful voice within me more than the encouraging confident voice. I learned three lessons from that introspection:
1.) Whatever you pay attention to will grow. Just like plants grow when they are given attention and nurture, anxiety, fear, and doubt also grow when you feed them by asking yourself questions that are aimed at crippling your spirit.
2.) Doubt, like worry, is negative faith; confidence is positive faith. I learned very quickly that people who are confident are not necessarily that way because they know more than others. They are that way because they believe they can convey information, ideas, visions and goals in a better way even when they don’t have the necessary tools available to them
3.) You are capable of more than you think (I learned this when I took up running and had to overcome mind obstacles). In many instances, it is a matter of your mind over your actual ability. If you can win the battle in your mind, everything else is level ground.
4.) You cannot achieve anything by your own ability only. You need the support of God and his word, else you will crash and burn trying to do everything on your own.
Doubt? Leave it outside where it belongs. Focus more on what you can do to get to where you want to be, rather than what can go wrong to impede your progress. Win the battle in your mind, and take each day at a time. Don’t stress about what will happen in five years. Let each day take care of itself and simply do your best.
It has been four years since I had that introspection and my life has gone through many ups and downs since then. However, one thing has remained constant – the belief that I can do much more than my ‘over-confident’ self gives me credit for, and the fact that God has my back any day any time. Even when my plans fail, he makes an alternative way and opens my eyes to see it.