Good Girl’s Guide to Getting the Guy

“Good girls hardly ever get the guy” or so the saying goes. I’ve heard this many times and wondered why it is so. Being a good girl myself (*clearing my throat*), I notice the guys all want to gravitate towards the ‘bad-girl-riri’ types and only few guys get intrigued by the vege-planting, bible-reading, modest-dressing ladies. OK… not all good girls fit that bill; some are … Continue reading Good Girl’s Guide to Getting the Guy

Ladies, Just Started Dating? Here are Five Ground Rules For You

I wrote this post for the covenant relationship blog, and I just had to share it here as well with followers of motivation springs. People say there are no rules regarding relationships, hence couples are free to decide what they want in their relationship and how they want their interactions to play out. While that is a very nice disposition to have as it helps … Continue reading Ladies, Just Started Dating? Here are Five Ground Rules For You

Women were Created for the Pleasure of Men

“Women were created to please men” This is the general thought many men walk around with even if they refuse to say it out loud (no thanks to female emancipation). This is the thought many women believe hence the urge they have to ensure their relationships work out at all cost. This is the thought society has thrived on – that women are lesser beings … Continue reading Women were Created for the Pleasure of Men

Africans Are Not Raised for Marital Compatibility

This probably cuts across other cultures, but I’m African so I am writing from an African perspective. When it comes to lack of marital compatibility, Africans take the prize. I blame our parents, grandparents, and if our ancestors are lurking in corners anywhere, I blame them too. On the average, male and female children in Africa are brought up with completely different models that now … Continue reading Africans Are Not Raised for Marital Compatibility

Nigerians, Boundaries, and Hypocrisy… It Just Never Ends

Where do I start this post which is clearly directed at my fellow Nigerians? My dear Naija people who I’ve grown to love and despise at the same time? I have spent days pondering how to compose this post, and many times, I left it unwritten with the biggest open-ended question on my mind as I lay my head to sleep – why don’t Nigerians … Continue reading Nigerians, Boundaries, and Hypocrisy… It Just Never Ends